Self-Worth and Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse is terrible. Sometimes it is even worse than physical abuse. If you have managed to break the cycle and to free yourself from the emotional abuse, there is one more thing that you have to do for yourself: rebuilding self worth. Sometimes the recovery after the emotional abuse is just as difficult as the abuse itself. No one says that it’s going to be easy, but you have to do this for yourself. Bring your self-worth at its normal level again because otherwise all your suffering might have been for nothing.
Here is what you should consider if you are trying to recover your self-worth after emotional abuse:
- It is important to let go of what happened. The past is gone and there is no point in dwelling on it. It is useless and unfair to blame yourself for what happen or to keep reliving those moments. Planning for the future is definitely a more rewarding activity.
- Feeling angry and sad is absolutely normal. While you should indeed focus on the future, you should not suppress your anger or your sadness. They will build up inside you and they will undermine your self-worth. Instead, find creative ways of letting these feelings out. Some people are helped by exercises, others by a favorite hobby and others by family and friends. Find out what works in your case and get rid of bad feelings which stand in the way of your self-worth.
- Your life has not ended when you were emotionally abused. You have to be aware of the fact that you are still the same person, with the same goals and dreams. Your self-worth is the one that makes it possible for you to follow your dreams and your plans. Don’t dwell on the past and don’t focus only on the present. Instead, think about what you want to do in the future and start right now.
- Self-worth is all about you, but this does not mean that you should exclude your friends and family. Keep your loved ones close and talk to them. Sometimes this works wonders.
- Be aware of the fact that you won’t be able to rebuild your self-worth overnight. The recover process might take longer, but you need to stay motivated.